Happy Anniversary to The Rhoton Family Blog!

Today marks the one year anniversary that I started this blog!  Boy, how time flies when you're having fun!  I have written over 200 blog posts with an average of 1800 hits a month from different sources.  Yes, that probably isn't that much for some of you bloggers out there, but for my little blog I'm pretty happy with that :)

I have grown to love blogging and reading other blogs.  It has become a favorite past time of mine that's for sure!  Some of my favorite blogs that I read daily are Do-It-Yourself blogs, Cooking blogs, Running blogs, and Cop Wife blogs.  All of them are of interest to me because they are things I enjoy doing or relate to me in some way.

I'm proud of this little family blog I have created and I'm looking forward to adding more and more to it in the years to come.  I hope those of you that visit it on a daily basis enjoy reading it as much as I have enjoyed writing it.


HAPPY ANNIVERSARY TO THE RHOTON FAMILY BLOG!  I honestly don't know where the time has gone...

10 Reasons LEO's are Different

1) Law enforcement officers are seen as authority figures. People deal with them differently and treat them differently, even when they are not working. When a problem occurs, everyone looks to the officer to "take charge," to "solve the problem." Some say the cop is never off duty. Even when the officer is not working there is a tendency to attack problems and take charge. Sometimes taking charge is not preferable, and can cause particular strains in our world where many people like to linger with problems, never really solving anything. Recognizing the difference between a "problem solving" situation, where action is desirable, and a more passive situation, where action may alienate others, is difficult for the cop.


2) They are isolated. The wearing of a badge, uniform and gun makes a law officer separate from society. This segregation leads to many psychological effects which research shows can create negative personality traits. For example, psychological research shows the wearing of a uniform will tend to make any person de-humanize people who are without a uniform. Just wearing a badge or a gun can cause people to act more aggressively. These are changes that could happen to anyone wearing a uniform, badge and gun, thus these factors are expected to operate in some way on the police officer. Many officers suggest there is a "role," or "mask" which they put on along with their uniform. Sometimes this role leaks into their personal lives and changes the course of their relationships and leisure time.


3) Law enforcement officers work in a quasi-military, structured institution. There are mental health concerns associated with working within a "quasi-military structure" and other mental health concerns of working in an "institution." Military organizations require the sacrifice of the individual for the good of society. The "individual" is not a consideration; the "goal" of the group is paramount. In a military organization, the focus is on punishing the individual if he is not up to standards. It is a de-humanizing process to recognize that you are only valued as a part of a machine. The institution' takes the same attitude, only a step further. In an institution, you are locked in a set process and the process is more important many times than, not only the individual, but also the goal. When an officer does a remarkable job of police work, perhaps even saves a life, he can still be reprimanded if he doesn't file the proper paperwork. The paperwork describing an action in many cases is more important to the institution than the action itself. Both the quasi-military nature of police work and the functioning within an institution combine for a mental health situation that is quite undesirable and very stressful.


4) Shift work is not normal. The "rotating shift" schedule is very taxing on an officer's life. Our bodies are adjusted on what is called "circadian schedules" which is a repetitive daily cycle. Our bodies like to have a regular eating time, sleeping time, waking time, etc. An officer doing shift work never gets a chance to stay on a schedule. This upsets his physical and mental balance in life. The changing work schedule also upsets the routine patterns that are needed in healthy marriage and family development. Strong marital and family development is based on rituals, like dinners together, "inside jokes," repeated activities, etc. The rotating shift worker has less chance to develop these rituals and his relationships suffer. This predisposes the officer's family to potential problems ranging from divorces, to children acting-out.


5) Camaraderie can be a two edged sword. The law enforcement job nurtures a sense of teamwork and unity with co-workers, what was once called "esprit de corps." The fraternity helps the officer on the job feel secure about getting the needed support in dangerous situations. It also stimulates a sense of belonging that can create an "us and them" view of the world. This makes the law enforcement "clique" harder to leave when retiring and makes officers more protective of each other. It also makes it more difficult to accept someone within the fraternal organization leaving or being killed. This adds to the stress of an officer.


6) Even the stress is different. Officers have a different kind of stress in their jobs, called "burst stress." Burst stress means there is not always a steady stressor, but at times, there is an immediate "burst" from low stress to a high stress state. In other words, officers go from complete calm, to high activity and pressure in one "burst." The normal stress situation for most of the rest of the work force consists of a stress building process that can be either reduced or adapted to before it gets "out of control." This is not the case for the officer, because "out of control" can happen in seconds (see "A Cop's Story" for a good example of burst stress). The law enforcement job is reactive, not proactive. Officers cannot usually control entrance into most situations they face, unlike most people who get warnings. They have to react, not prevent problems. It is difficult to defend against burst stress.


7) The need to be in constant emotional control. Law enforcement officers have a job that requires extreme restraint under highly emotional circumstances. They are told when they are extremely excited, they have to act calm. They are told when they are nervous, they have to be in charge. They are taught to be stoic when emotional. They are to interact with the world in a role. The emotional constraint of the role takes tremendous mental energy, much more energy than expressing true emotions. When the energy drain is very strong, it may make the officer more prone to exhaustion outside of work, such as not wanting to participate in social or family life. This energy drain can also create a sense of job and social burnout.


8) No gray areas. The law enforcement officer works in a fact-based world with everything compared to written law. Right and wrong is determined by a standard. They have a set way of going about gathering the proper evidence for the law and can justify their actions because they represent the "good and right side." In the real world, clear rights and wrongs are not as likely to occur. The newspapers are an opinion-based system, the court system is an opinion-based system and, needless to say, relationship decisions and proper parenting techniques are opinion-based systems. Adjusting from right and wrong, black-and-white systems, to opinion-based systems is very difficult and requires a complete change in mental attitude.


9) The "at work" world of the officer is very negative. He sees the bad part of society - the criminal, the abuser of the rules. This may skew the officer's opinions on the character of the average human being. It creates a cynicism, a critical view of the world. It is hard to adjust to trusting a fellow human being when so much of the day is spent with people who are not trustworthy. It is hard to believe in positive intentions of people, when the day is spent with people who are intending to hurt each other. This lack of trust can show up in the way the officer deals with people on a personal level, with neighbors, with a spouse. It can even show up in the way children are raised, as police parents may tend to be stricter in discipline and more careful with privilege.

10) Even the children are effected. The children of law enforcement officers have a more difficult adjustment. As a young child, the police officer parent is seen as holding a prestigious, desirable position. The young child and his friends look up to the police officer as a minor celebrity, a person of great respect. As a teen-ager, their parent is part of the authority of society. Since teens rebel against authority anyway, this can cause a double rebellion against the parent both in their role as caretaker and as a symbol of the authority of society. Frequently, the officer's child is either overly compliant because of the rules imposed, thus causing depressive problems or personality restriction, or the teen becomes overly rebellious of the rule-oriented parent - the best child or the worst.

Article copied from (www.heavybadge.com)

Week #12 of Kendra's Cooking Challenge: Banana Chip Bars

I really wanted to make these since I saw it on my cousin's blog The Fig Lives.  I guess these are a specialty of my Aunt Ingrid... however, I can never remember trying them before.  Anyways, I found the recipe in the family recipe book she made me and got right to work making these delicious little things!  YUM!

Banana Chip Bars (Ingrid Saxman)

Ingredients

  • 3/4 cup butter (room temp)
  • 2/3 cup sugar
  • 2/3 cup packed brown sugar
  • 1 egg
  • 1 teaspoon vanilla
  • 2 ripe bananas, mashed
  • 2 cups flour
  • 2 teaspoons baking powder
  • 1/2 teaspoon salt
  • 1 6 oz package semi sweet chocolate chips
Beat butter and sugars together until creamy.


Add the egg and vanilla, mix.


Add bananas, mix. Add flour, baking powder, and salt, mix.


Stir in chocolate chips.


Spread in a greased and floured 15 1/2" x 10 1/2" x 1" pan.


Bake at 350 degrees for 25 minutes.


Dan rated this dessert a 10.  He plans on eating it for breakfast in the upcoming week :)

They're MOVING!!!!

On Saturday Dan called me outside to show me something.  I was soooo surprised when I saw this!!!


That's right... our neighbors are moving!  I know this may sound bad, but we couldn't be happier.  They let their grass grow 3 feet tall before cutting it, let their dog poop in our yard (I have enough poop to clean up), and their cat uses our flower beds for a litter box!  I won't miss dealing with their shenanigans ever again.  Although, as my Dad pointed out... we could end up with someone much worse!  O'well, for right now I'll savor the moment! 

Mileage Monday

Running stats for the week of June 6th - June 12th... on Monday after my first run for the week, my legs hurt something awful!  That muscle I pulled while planting flowers did not get any better during or after the run.  Plus it is soooo freakin' hot out that running is NOT at all enjoyable.  The weather makes it hard to breathe and you're so drenched with sweat when you get home it's like you just got done taking a shower with your clothes on. I even run after 9 pm!!!  As the week progressed so did my aches and pains... my ankles and knees have both started bothering me... uhgggg!  This always seems to happen once I reach over 3 miles. I took a break earlier in the week than I was suppose to and then ended up doing 2 rest days instead of 1. My Sunday run was great though!  The heat finally broke and I was able to run in the middle of the day without over heating :) 

Monday, June 6th, 2011 - ran 2.96 miles

Tuesday, June 7th, 2011 - ran 3.14 miles

Wednesday, June 8th, 2011 - ran 2.5 miles

Thursday, June 9th, 2011 - REST DAY

Friday, June 10th, 2011 - Cross Train Day : stretch/long walk with Remi

Saturday, June 11th, 2011 - REST DAY - missed my 3.14 miles :(

Sunday, June 12th, 2011 - ran 3.5 miles

Total miles for this week : 12.l miles

Week #11 of Kendra's Cooking Challenge: Spicy Glazed Shrimp, Vegetable Kabobs, and Grilled Banana Boats

We had Myla over for dinner tonight so we made a whole meal for tonight's challenge.  Not only was the meal pretty good, Dan and I had a nice time chatting with one of our dearest friends :)

Spicy Glazed Shrimp and Vegetable Kabobs (www.myrecipes.com)

Ingredients

  • 16 7-8 inch wooden skewers
  • 2 tablespoons honey
  • 2 tablespoons spicy brown mustard
  • 1 1/2 pounds peeled, jumbo-size raw shrimp with tails (16-20 count)
  • 1 tablespoon Caribbean Jerk seasoning
  • 2 tablespoons olive oil
  • 1/4 teaspoon salt
  • 3 yellow squash, cut into 1/4 - 1/2 inch slices
  • 2 zucchini, cut into 1/4 - 1/2 inch slices
  • 1 red bell pepper, cut into 1 1/2 inch pieces
  • 1 tablespoon olive oil
  • salt and pepper to taste
Soak wooden skewers in water. Stir together honey and spicy brown mustard. Toss shrimp with Caribbean Jerk seasoning, 2 tablespoons olive oil, and 1/4 teaspoon salt.


Thread onto 8 skewers.


Thread squash slices, zucchini slices, and red bell pepper pieces onto remaining skewers.


Brush vegetable kabobs with 1 tablespoon olive oil, sprinkle with salt and pepper to taste.


Grill kabobs, covered with grill lid, over 350 to 400 degrees (medium high) heat. Grill vegetables 15 minutes or until tender, turning occasionally.  Grill shrimp 2 minutes on each side or just until shrimp turn pink.


Baste shrimp with honey mixture. Serve immediately.


We ended up serving the meal with some white rice.  It was pretty darn good I thought.  I hope Myla enjoyed it as much as we did.  Dan rated this meal a 9!

I also really wanted to make something called Banana Boats.  I saw this dessert online and thought it looked fun.  However, I would not say that any of us were too impressed with the outcome.

Grilled Banana Boats (www.aggieskitchen.com)

Ingredients

  • Bananas (one per person)
  • different kinds of candy you would like to add  
Start by laying your banana on its side, using a pairing knife gently slice through the skin and banana making sure to not cut through to the other side.


Once you've made your slice, tuck in your goodies.  You can use whatever suits you.  We used Reese's pieces, chocolate chips, nuts, and marshmallows.


My Banana Boat


Myla's Banana Boat


Dan's Banana Boat


Place them on the hot grill over indirect heat and cook until soft and skins are black. You have to check and touch them a bit.


The banana boats were okay, but not something I would want to make again.  Dan rated this dessert a 6!  YIKES!

Update on my Seeds to Flowers!

Remember about a month ago I planted a bunch of seeds in my flower beds with the hopes of them actually sprouting into flowers? Well, I figured that I had better update you on the progress they have made so far.  They have started growing, even though they aren't exactly pretty or anything yet.


Flower bed... contains Irises along the walls, Zinnias around them, and Creeping Daisies in the middle.


Flower pot... contains Zinnias.  These actually have buds on them!


Small flower bed... contains Creeping Daisies... these didn't take very well.  I think it might have to do with Dan's mowing :(


Hanging Basket... contains Zinnias... and these too have buds on them.

Depending on how things go, I'm leaning toward planting all zinnias next year.  They seem to grow and mature the fastest and be the most hardy.

We'll just wait and see :)

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