Kendra's Cooking Challenge!

This is probably no surprise to most of you reading this, but I HATE to cook.  All the cooking in our household is done by Dan.  Thank goodness he likes to do it or we would probably be living off of cereal and rice/noodle packets.  There is no doubt how blessed I am to have a husband who does this for me on a daily basis!  However, since Dan has started working 2nd shift it is become painfully obviously just how awful of a cook I am and how little I even know about this past time.  I am now doing what Dan has prevented for so long... I'm living off of cereal and rice/noodle packets!!!  Sad I know and probably not the healthiest either!  This has got me to thinking...

I really need to learn how to cook and cook well!  I mean one day we will have kiddos and I want to be able to make nice meals for them as well as my husband.  I think it is time I finally learn.  I have tried in the past, but Dan was also home when I did and of course helped me out with a lot of things.  This time when I do it... HE WON'T BE HOME!  This is scary for me, but absolutely necessary because I will actually have to do things on my own and I won't have Dan there to catch all the mistakes I make!  EKKK!

So I have decided that at the beginning of April through the end of August (summer months when my work schedule isn't so crazy) that I will be participating in "Kendra's Cooking Challenge"  During this challenge I will attempt to cook one thing per week.  This could be anything from a whole meal, to dessert, or even a breakfast.  Anything is up for grabs!  There will be 22 weeks in this challenge, which will mean 22 things I will "try" to cook!  It should be very interesting to see the outcome :)


It could be a disaster....

The Law Enforcement Stress Factor

I found the following article interesting and a predictor of what many of our LEO (law enforcement officers) go through because of their occupations.  Either as a friend or family member lets all be aware of what they face on a daily basis.

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PLAINFIELD — Retired Plainfield Police Capt. Mark Edwards was "shocked, but not surprised" when he heard on the radio Monday morning that a veteran Piscataway police officer had been killed after exchanging gunfire with police during a nine-hour standoff at his home.

Edwards was on his way to the funeral of 52-year-old Plainfield Police Lt. Ronald S. Lattimore, who fatally shot himself last week, when the news about 46-year-old Piscataway Sgt. David Powell hit the airwaves. Little sense could be made of either incident Monday, but Edwards said both underscored the notion that the mental health of police, fire and emergency workers is something that demands close and constant scrutiny.

"It's not uncommon for there to be a domino effect (with incidents like these)," Edwards said. "This is stressful work."

Edwards, who served as a stress counselor to Plainfield officers during much of his nearly 27-year career in law enforcement, today remains an active counselor and board member of the New Jersey Critical Incident Stress Management Team, an all-volunteer nonprofit organization that offers support to emergency service personnel and their family members during and following periods of personal or professional crisis.

Those workers are twice as likely as the average person to get divorced, three times more likely to suffer from alcoholism and between three and seven times as likely to commit suicide, Edwards explained, citing national statistics. Edwards's organization focuses closely on "critical incidents" that can include the on-duty use of a service weapon, a traumatic injury or even an investigation into a child's death. Edwards said he experienced a "critical incident" of his own early in his law-enforcement career, when he responded to a robbery in progress at a local McDonald's.

"There was a point where we were gun barrel to gun barrel," Edwards said of his experience with a suspect, noting that he ultimately was able to convince him to surrender his weapon before anyone was hurt. "There are a lot of things something like that does to your head."

Plainfield Police Sgt. Larry Brown, a 25-year veteran with the force, added that stress can stem from a single ugly incident or build up slowly over time.

"Seeing the dead bodies, the kids being shot, it's rough," Brown explained. "You deal with it, but one day all of that comes down on you at some point."

It's part of what Edwards calls "general police stress," something city Public Safety Director Martin Hellwig said Monday can be "overwhelming." The job often consists of long periods of relative monotony followed by short bursts of extreme stress, Edwards explained.

"It's the shifts. It's time away from the family when other families would normally have that time together," Edwards said. "Plus your diet is crap. We tend to not take care of ourselves as well either."

The concept of safeguarding the mental health of emergency workers remained a fringe topic until only relatively recently, Edwards added.

"The old concept from old-timers was to "bite your lip, be a man, man up,' " Edwards explained.

Police suicide, specifically, is a phenomenon that only recently has been examined closely on a national level — the National Surveillance of Police Suicide Study was the first report of its kind to study actual suicides on a daily basis across all 50 states for an entire year.

The study found that a little more than 140 U.S. police officers killed themselves in 2008, a figure that rose slightly in 2009. Both years, New Jersey ranked among the top three states in the nation in police suicides.

However, New Jersey also is a national leader when it comes to actively working to prevent police suicide. Aside from the efforts of nonprofit groups, the state's Cop 2 Cop initiative, the first program of its kind in the nation, was legislated into law in 1998 to focus on suicide prevention and mental health support for law enforcement officers. The program, which falls under the umbrella of the New Jersey Department of Human Services' Division of Mental Health, provides crisis intervention services, including a 24-hour hot line for officers (1-866-COP2COP).

Edwards spoke highly of the Cop 2 Cop program, but added that it's critical that leaders of police departments everywhere make their officers aware of the availability of help in facing mental health issues. Hellwig said he is committed to doing just that, noting that counseling was made available to the entire division in the wake of Lattimore's death.

"Sometimes, we feel we're invincible," Edwards said. "Like it will never happen to us."
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This makes me thankful for the counseling sessions Dan's department offers to the family for free!  I feel like they are doing their part in taking care of their officers and their loved ones.

Needing a new hobby...

Okay... as I have mentioned before... these 2nd shift work hours of Dan's are slowly killing me of LONELINESS!  I think I'm in need of a new hobby...

Of course, I still have hobbies that I currently enjoy... but the loneliness seems to overtake even them!

Hobbies I love:

1) Reading... there is nothing like passing the time with a good book!


2) Running... in the summer time I become obsessed with this pass time, but right now in the cold, not so much!


3) Cross stitching... I love doing this, but often start a project and never finish it (Andrew's Blanket)


4) DIY projects... for a while I was really into working on little do it yourself projects such as painting flower pots.  I still have 3 of those I need to do before May hits!


5) Gardening... I know I'm not a green thumb!  But I like to try!  This summer I plan on starting all of my flowers from seeds!


Okay, okay, okay... I guess I don't need a new hobby, maybe I just need to reconnect with my old ones :) I'm thinking that once summer comes it will be much easier to keep myself entertained... don't you!

Wanting a Police Scanner...

Some of the blogs that I enjoy following are what I like to call "Cop Wife Blogs"... they are mainly the blogs of cop wives in different areas around the country.  Very interesting to read about their worlds. One of the topics of discussion on their blogs was police scanners.  Well, after reading about them I want one!


First of all... it isn't just because I want to hear what Dan is doing at work... even though that is a plus... I'm just interested in police work in general.  I mean, I did get a degree in Criminal Justice and probably would have went into that kind of work had I not married a cop.  I just want to know what is going on in general around Lawrence for informational as well as entertainment purposes :) There's nothing wrong with that right?

However, my husband, really does not want me to get one.  Dan says that it will only make me worry more.  Often times they will get a call that sounds a lot worse than what it ends up being.  So, I could think he is going into a life or death matter when really it ends up being nothing.  He also said that there can be long periods of silence between each dispatch so I might be waiting for long periods of time wondering what happened and if he is all right. Plus, since he will be on thirds then I wouldn't be able to listen during his work time anyways.

I'm not backing down though... there are big advantages of having one around the house!!!  They are good to have around if a major disaster hit.  They can inform me of weather alerts such as tornados, blizzards, storms, floods, or earthquakes.  Also, I could find out about highway problems or power outages.  It seems to me that a police scanner would be extremely beneficial during times that I need important information fast, don't you think?

Now... I know that some of you out there read this blog religiously... please leave me a comment and tell me your vote!  Yes, Dan should get me one... or No, Dan should not!  My fate is in your hands!!!!

Mileage Monday!

Running stats for the week of March 14th - 20th...It really is sad how lazy and out of shape I have become during the winter.  I'm finding it a HUGE challenge to get back into any kind of running routine.  However, since the weather has finally started to get a bit nicer and the days a bit longer I feel hopeful that I will soon stop feeling like a beached whale...

 
Thursday, March 17th, 2011 - 2 miles @ a 10:00 minute per mile pace

Sunday, March 20th, 2011 - 1.73 miles @ a 10:00 minutes per mile pace

Spring Break in P-town!

One of the perks of working at a University is that you often get some of the fun vacations off that the students do!  Spring Break is one of those for us!  We didn't get the whole week off like they did, but we did get 2 days off!  What can I say... I can't complain!

Since Dan is working so much lately Remington and I decided to take a short trip to P-town that way we didn't get so lonely during the times that Dan is not home!  Even though it makes things easier on us... it makes things harder on Dan!  An empty house for 4 whole days will be torture for him.  With Remington there it would be bearable... but without... TORTURE!

Remington and I packed up in the afternoon on Wednesday and started on our 2 hour trip!  We ended up stopping at Ashcraft Jewelers on the way through because I noticed that one of the small diamonds in my ring had fallen out!  AHHHH!  Luckily, they fixed it at no charge!

We stayed in P-town for four whole days, but can you believe that I didn't take one picture!!! I know, I'm disappointed in myself.  The weather was great and Remington and I got to take many walks together and spend lots of time with Mom and Dad.  I got to have dinner with my best guy friend Curt and see Kristin, Lindsey and Baby Andrew!  Usually I would get to see my Grandma F., but she had the flu really bad.  I think the whole family was quite concerned about her.  We finally talked her into going to the doctor! I think she is finally on the up swing!

We headed home in the morning on Sunday so we could see Dan before he left for work and take care of some things around the house.  Dan is getting a cold... blah!  He is very congested and not feeling great.  I cleaned up the house a little bit and tackled the mountain of laundry that Dan had not yet gotten to.  Tomorrow I head back to work......... I would rather bang my head against the wall.

Life as a cop wife...

I must say that life has not been easy this week. It has been somewhat emotional for me. I knew Dan being on second shift would be hard, but you just don't realize what life will be like until it happens.  I'm grateful that I had to work late a few nights this week to keep my mind off being lonely.  Being able to see your husband only when he is sleeping is not all that fun.  When I have been home, things have been interesting that's for sure.  I have been greeted with 2-3 piles of puke almost every evening in Remington's crate.  Yeah... disgusting.  I think he is suffering from a bit of separation anxiety. Also, taking care of an 82 lb dog who is adjusting to his Dad being gone is not the most fun thing in the world.  Remington has managed to push my buttons all week long!  He has enjoyed running around the house like a maniac, barking and jumping at the neighbors like they are going to rob our house, and pretty much not listening to a gosh darn thing I ask him to do.  It has been lovely.  It might not sound like that big of a deal to most, but when your dog is almost as big as you, it can become a real problem. Since Dan is the disciplinary in the house I know that Remington is just testing me to see what he can and cannot get away with.  By the end of my evenings Remington has worn himself out from being so bad :)


"With Dad gone I get one whole side of the bed to myself!!!"   

Sleep has also been an issue since Dan is getting home around midnight most nights.  When Remington hears the garage door go up it is almost impossible to get him to settle down for at least a hour.  So I don't get back to sleep for probably the next two hours :(  By the end of this first week, I'm wearing down....  I'm just grateful that once FTO Training is over with Dan will go back to thirds :)
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